Love for Beginners

Dating can be very fun and exciting, especially when you meet your first love! The butterflies, the long love letters and the pure joy of knowing that you’re going to marry them someday!  

However, knowing how to choose the person to give your heart to can be very complicated to people in their twenties and thirties; let alone to someone who has never had a boyfriend or girlfriend and is still in high school. It’s important to know what to expect from potential dating partners when deciding if you’d like to know them them on a romantic level. It needs to be based on more than their good looks. Here’s an introduction of things for you to expect from a potential boyfriend. These qualities are very important for you to know as you begin your dating experience.

This may sound old fashioned to you… and frankly, it is. However, boys still expect you to know this very important rule and to follow it if they are to ever respect you.  Here it is: You want the boy to come to you. If you meet someone special who likes you, you will know. Wait and see what they are willing to do to spend time with you.  Let them do the work of finding you and asking you to talk, to visit you, to see you. You need to start thinking about loving a boy for what they are willing to do for you as opposed to what they want you to do for them. So if you have that thought process in your head, it's time to let go of it. The boy should come to you during the daylight hours to say hello, ask you on a date and take you for lunch, coffee, or for walks, or to meet your parents. This is the kind of person that you want to give your heart to because they can give the kind of love that you want in order to feel good about the relationship. They will always make you feel special and I mean really special. They might have what it takes for you to live happily ever after if you so choose. If you ever feel that you need to go to him for the attention you want from him, then what you really need to do is move on. Explore other options. The boy should want to pursue you. If he doesn’t, it’s a recipe for heart break.

Once you know that this boy is willing to take your relationship on as his responsibility, then you know that it’s okay for you to start letting him get to know you better.  You can start to spend a little more time together and do something special for him like make him cookies, buy him a cd, or something that you know he’ll appreciate. You can take your guard down a little. He’s earned it, and he will know that he needs to continue to treat you well in order for your relationship to grow. After you know that these desired traits are present and alive in your dating partner, you’ll want to make sure that you have enough in common with each other to be able to have fun together!  

If at any time, throughout your relationship this boy stops treating you with the same kind of love and respect he did when he was gaining your trust; it will be time for you to end your relationship. It is best to move on. You deserve to be treated equally as well throughout your entire relationship as you did in the beginning. He will be able to earn your relationship back the same way he did in the very beginning. Little by little until he has once again proved that he respects you and you can trust him again.  

The information I've shared here applies for men and women as well as young adults. For more questions on dating in the beginning please email TheLoveBlogger@gmail.com.

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